
Getting to the Church
Walking is thought to be the best way of getting to the Church, because
there's more of a chance of spotting lucky omens. Seeing a rainbow, having
sunshine on the bride, and meeting a black cat or a chimney sweep are all
lucky. Of course you could run into some bad omens as well. Bad omens are
considered seeing a pig, hare or lizard running across the road (not something
we usually have to worry about) or seeing an open grave. Make sure you
don't run into any Monks or Nuns either, because they foretell a life of
barrenness and a life dependent on charity. Coming home from the church
can be equally hazardous.
Wedding March
The traditional church wedding features two bridal marches, by two
different classical composers. The bride walks down the aisle to the majestic,
moderately paced music of the "Bridal Chorus" from Richard Wagner's 1848
opera "Lohengrin. The newlyweds exit to the more jubilant, upbeat strains
of the "Wedding March" (From Felix Mendelssohn's "A Midsummer Night's Dream.")
The custom dates back to the royal marriage, in 1858, of Victoria, princess
of Great Britain, and Empress of Germany, to Prince Frederick William of
Prussia. Victoria, eldest daughter of Britain's Queen Victoria, selected
the music herself. A patron of the arts, she valued the works of Mendelssohn
and practically venerated those of Wagner. Given the British penchant for
copying the monarchy, soon brides throughout the Isles, nobility and commoners
alike, were marching to Victoria's drummer, establishing a Western wedding
tradition.
Bride On Groom's Left
Because the early Anglo Saxon groom so often had to defend his bride
from would-be kidnappers, she stood to his left, leaving his sword-arm
free. The "best" warrior in the tribe stood by the groom and was responsible
for helping defend the bride, thus the placement for the modern day best
man.
Seating
In ancient days, fathers would offer daughters as peace offerings to
warring tribes. Because of the hostility, the families were placed on opposite
sides of the church so the ceremony could go on without bloodshed. The
ceremony united the two warring factions into on family, and danger of
war was resolved.
Giving Away The Bride
In Old Times, female children were deemed to be the property of their
fathers. When it came time for the daughter to marry and her father
approved of the arrangement, he was actually transferring ownership of
his daughter to the groom. Today, it is seen as symbolic of the blessings
and support of her union as a promise of continued trust and affection.
Often when the question is asked by a clergy during the ceremony,
"Who gives this woman to be married to this man," the father's response
is, "Her mother and I."
White Aisle Runner
The white aisle runner symbolized God's holiness and walking on holy
ground. It is believed that marriage is not just between two individuals
but includes the presence of God who is actively involved in the marriage
ceremony.
Taking Each Other's Right Hand
The open right hand is a symbol of strength, resource and purpose.
The coming together of both right hands is a symbol that both the bride
and the groom can depend on each other and the resources that each brings
to the marriage. It also represents the merger of their lives together
into one.
Groom Gives First Vows
Because he is the initiator, he is the first to state his vow for marriage.
As the initiator of the covenant, the groom is to assume the greatest responsibility
in the marriage.
The Wedding Ring
The marriage ring represents a promise for eternal and everlasting
love. It is a representation of the promises joining both the bride and
groom together. The wedding ring is placed on the fourth finger of the
left hand because it was traditionally believed that this finger was a
direct connection to the heart---the perfect place to place a symbol, representing
eternal love and commitment.
The circular shape of the wedding ring has symbolized undying, unending
love since the days of the early Egyptians. A primitive bride wore
a ring of hemp or rushes, which had to be replaced often. Durable
iron was used by the Romans to symbolize the permanence of marriage.
Today's favorite is of course, gold, with it's lasting qualities of beauty
and purity.
In ancient times, when life was much harder and oftentimes shorter,
husbands practiced a superstitious ritual to ensure their wives spirits
wouldn't leave too soon. The husband would wrap the bride's ankles and
wrists with ropes of grass believing this would keep here spirit within
her. Over the years, as religious beliefs evolved, the meaning (and material)
of the bonds evolved as well. Today, brides thankfully don't bind their
wrists and ankles, only their ring fingers, and grooms have adopted the
practice as well. The grass gave way first to leather, then stone, then
metal, and finally, to gold and silver. Today, the rings symbolize the
love and bond between husband and wife.
First Kiss
No ceremony is complete without the kiss. In fact, there was a time
when an engagement would be null and void without one. Dating back from
early Roman times, the kiss represented a legal bond that sealed all contracts.
The kiss that seals the wedding is much more than a sign of affection.
It has long been a token of bonding - the exchange of spirits as each partner
sends a part of the self into the new spouse's soul, there to abide ever
after.
Unity Candle
The unity candle is a symbol of family unity. Usually a single candle
(representing the newly married couple) is lit with two individual candles,
each representing the bride's and groom's families.
Arch Of Swords Following Ceremony
Walking through the arc of swords following the ceremony was done to
ensure the couple's safe passage into their new life together.
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