Communicating
with flowers became the height of fashion under Queen Victoria, when nineteenth
century publishers produced dozens of dictionaries explaining "floriography"
as "The Language of Flowers." Lovers used the guidebooks to gather nosegays,
bouquets and tussie-mussies --from the medieval tussie (knot of flowers)
and mussie (moist moss used to keep flowers fresh) The Victorians also
created special holders for these bouquets so that a lady could carry her
flowers with her, just as she would her purse.
There is also a hidden meaning
surrounding the presentation of flowers. Arrangements filled with greenery
expressed hope in a love affair. When a bouquet was presented upside down,
its opposite meaning was intended. If the ribbon was tied to the left,
the message referred to the giver; to the right, the recipient. Flowers
worn at the heart meant love, but those fastened in the hair implied caution.

From the time of Solomon, the
rose has been the flower most closely linked with love. The rose was sacred
to Venus, the Roman goddess of love, and was connected to her messenger,
Cupid. In one myth, Cupid was hurrying to the council of the gods, carrying
a vase of nectar for them to drink. When he stumbled and spilled
the nectar, it bubbled onto the earth and sprang up in the form of roses.
Another myth said that the
rose was created by Chloris, the Greek goddess of flowers. Chloris fashioned
the rose from the body of a lifeless nymph she found in the woods. The
three Graces encircled the flower and bestowed on it gifts of brightness,
charm and joy. Aphrodite, the goddess of love, gave it a portion of her
beauty, and Dionysus, the god of wine, poured forth nectar to give it fragrance.
Even Zephyr, the west wind, blew a clearing in the clouds so that Apollo,
the sun god, could make the flower bloom. The gods hailed their new creation
and immediately crowned the rose the Queen of Flowers.
The rose has since been dedicated
to all lovers and goddesses and is said to signify love and beauty. A red
rose means "I love you." but a yellow rose stands for jealousy and infidelity.
A white rose symbolizes purity, while the rosebud suggests young and innocent
love.

A Persian tale tells how
the rose became red one evening. It seems that a nightingale fell in love
with the flower and flew blindly towards its fragrance. Pierced by a thorn,
his blood flowed over the white petals, turning them red.
But Romans believed that
Venus blushed when Jupiter, the king of the gods, caught her bathing. It's
said that the white rose turned red in her blushing reflection. Another
Roman tale tells how Venus's tears, shed over unrequited love of Adonis,
fell on a white rose and turned it red.
The pale lilac was said to
bring enchantment and faithfulness. It was believed that a bath in lilac
water would enable one to get a glimpse of a future love.

The forget-me-not has been associated
with loving remembrance since medieval days. The story is that a handsome
knight was walking along riverbank with a lovely maiden. When he
stopped to pick her some wildflowers, he tumbled into the river. Before
his heavy armor caused him to sink, he tossed her the flowers crying, "Forget
me not!" The mourning maiden named the flowers in his memory.
The
legend of the pansy says the flower was originally white but turned bright
purple where it was pierced by Cupid's arrow. It's said that you can see
a loved one in the face of a pansy. Even the flower's named is derived
from the French pensee, meaning thought, reflecting the flower's
reputation for bringing thoughts of loved ones. Shakespeare clearly understood
the meaning of the flower when his characters concocted a love portion
from pansy juice in A Midsummer Night's Dream. The pansy is also
known as Heart's Ease, for it was believed that carrying the flower would
ensure the love of your sweetheart.
Periwinkle
also had a reputation for increasing thoughts of love. Culpeper, an English
botanist, advised that a man and a woman eat the plant's leaves together
since it would "cause love between them." Periwinkle is also said to symbolize
happy memories.
Ivy could mean marriage or
friendship. Supposedly, a young girl wearing a leaf of ivy next to her
heart was destined to marry the first single man she encountered.
The Romans said the daisy
was once a lovely wood nymph who shrank into a timid daisy when Vertumnus,
the god of spring, expressed his love for her.
Violets
were said to be lesser goddesses who once dared to rival the beauty of
Aphrodite, the goddess of love. Legend holds that Aphrodite beat her competitors
into tiny purple flowers.
Folklore says that the poppy
has telltale leaves.
The louder the leaves crackle
when crushed in a hand, the more that person is loved.
Doves were said to be sacred
to Venus and were used to carry messages between lovers in ancient Rome.
The dove symbolized peace and gentleness and was often given to a young
couple for the promise of a happy life. The birds were considered magical
and a flock of them overhead meant good luck in marriage; thus, even today
couples release doves on their wedding day.
Other birds were also associated
with love. In England, migrating birds return from the south in February,
and it's said that they choose their mates on February 14th. Thus, Valentine's
Day remains a popular day for weddings and engagements.
Parrots
are also considered lovebirds since they choose one mate and leave the
other birds. In the Victorian Era, pairs of small parrots in vivid green,
orange and purple were sometimes used as valentine ornaments.
Certain birds foretell happiness
with their song. The call of the cuckoo is suppose to reveal how soon a
young woman will be married. The number of calls indicates the number of
years until the wedding will take place. Likewise, its said that if young
lovers hear a nightingale's call, they will soon be married.
Even a robin singing on a windowsill
signals happiness and love.
If the bird nest near a house, it is a sign of good luck for the occupants.
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